Ep. 9: Communicating With your Child (Managing behaviour series)

Today, we're diving into the fifth and final episode of our series on managing behaviour. It feels like we’ve been on this journey for quite some time, and perhaps you feel the same way. As parents, we often find ourselves talking about our children’s behaviour — it’s simply part of the deal.

But today, we’re shifting gears slightly. Instead of focusing solely on behaviour, I want to talk about effective communication. It’s a skill that plays a crucial role in discipline, but it’s distinct from managing behaviour itself. I often receive questions from parents about how to communicate with their children — how to respond when their child shares their thoughts and feelings, and how to build a strong, respectful relationship. So, we’re going to explore my top five strategies in this area.

First up is active listening. I’ll explain how it’s all about truly focusing on what your child is saying — without preparing your own counterarguments in your head.

Next is empathy. Active listening allows us to better understand what our children are thinking and feeling, which in turn helps us to empathise more deeply with them.

Then there are “I statements.” These are phrases that start with “I” and reflect your own feelings and experiences, rather than placing blame or criticism on your child. They can be incredibly effective in fostering open, non-defensive communication.

Problem-solving together is another key skill. Rather than simply laying down the law, I’ll share how it’s far more effective to work collaboratively with your child — taking their thoughts and feelings into account as you navigate challenges together.

Finally, I’ll talk about the importance of patience. Children — particularly younger ones — may struggle to express themselves clearly or manage their emotions. By being patient and giving them the time they need, we create a space where real communication can happen.

These tools can help you maintain a strong, positive relationship with your child, even in the midst of tricky moments. So, take a deep breath — let’s dive into today’s episode and set the tone for a calm and connected week ahead.

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