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Episode 99: Strong Parents Thriving Kids: A Conversation with Carolyn Aukafolau

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, educator and parenting coach Carolyn Aukafolau joins us to unpack the real challenges parents face—and how they can support their children without sacrificing their own well-being.

Carolyn brings years of experience working with families, children with additional learning needs, and school systems in Hong Kong. She shares why parenting isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey, and how listening deeply, building trust, and embracing flexibility are essential for raising thriving kids.

Through powerful analogies like the “bucket-filling” concept and stories from her own life and career, Carolyn helps parents move from depleted to empowered. We explore why self-care is non-negotiable, how to navigate school transitions, and why trusting your instincts as a parent is vital.

Whether you're in the thick of toddlerhood, navigating school anxieties, or simply trying to reclaim your sense of self, this episode will leave you with tools, encouragement, and a sense of calm.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Why self-care is critical (and not selfish) for effective parenting

  • The "bucket" analogy: how to fill yours so you can fill your child’s

  • How to navigate parenting advice without losing your own voice

  • Building trust with school systems and professionals

  • The power of routines, mindfulness, and small daily actions

  • How to manage parenting burnout and recognize when you’re nearing it

  • Tips for working through transitions and difficult seasons

  • The hidden mental load of parenting—and how to unpack it

Mentioned in This Episode:

🔗 Carolyn Aukafolau's Website:
The Parent Oasis

📥 Free Resources from Carolyn:

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