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Episode 125: Behaviour Is Communication – And It Gets Louder When We Don’t Listen

In this episode of Parent Like a Psychologist, we explore a powerful idea every parent needs to understand: behaviour is communication.

When children don’t yet have the words or skills to explain how they’re feeling, they use behaviour to send the message for them. And just like adults, when that message isn’t heard, it doesn’t disappear, it gets louder.

We talk about:

  • Why big, challenging behaviour is often a sign of unmet needs, not bad behaviour

  • How emotional overwhelm, lack of control, or difficulty with regulation can show up as rudeness, meltdowns, or defiance

  • Why ignoring behaviour often leads to escalation

  • How shifting from “How do I stop this?” to “What is my child trying to tell me?” can change everything

  • What listening to behaviour actually looks like in everyday parenting

This episode is especially helpful for parents of children with ADHD, autism, anxiety, or emotional regulation difficulties, but the message applies to all kids.

When children feel understood and supported, behaviour often softens. Connection grows. Stress reduces. And parenting starts to feel more manageable.

🎧 Listen now if you want to understand your child’s behaviour with more clarity and compassion.

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